Weddings, Baptisms, Funerals, Fees


St Nicholas is a popular place to get married.  Please contact the parish office for further information. 

If you are visiting this website to look up fees, please scroll down to the bottom of this page.

Please ask your guests not to use confetti: someone has to tidy up!

You may also find this website useful: the official page of the Church of England which is at: About Weddings . The Church of England website also has some helpful pages on music at .


Who can be baptised? 

Anyone who hasn't already been baptised. A christening or baptism service is a holy sacrament, like marriage, and involves important vows. Most people receive baptism as children. However, those who haven't already been baptised can choose to do so as adults. 

To decide if baptism is right for you or your child you should understand what baptism is and why we perform it. 

What is baptism? 

Baptism makes us a member of God's Family and a follower of Jesus Christ. God promises to forgive our past sins. Baptism is often described in terms of dying and being reborn or being washed and made clean again. 

What role do parents and godparents play? 

As most people are baptised as children and are too young to make the promises themselves, so parents and godparents do it on their behalf. This involves declaring your own faith in God, and agreeing to pass this on to the child. You are agreeing to bring the child up as a Christian and that you will help them to learn about God's love. 

You will also promise to help them grow in faith so that one day they can confirm all the promises you make for them for themselves at their confirmation. 


Who can be a godparent? 

Godparents should be baptised, and preferably confirmed, and practising members of the Christian Church. They are chosen by you to set a good example of how to live as Christians. 

How many godparents do we need? 

Most people have three to four godparents, two of whom are the same sex as the child being baptised. There must be at least one of each gender. 

Baptism throughout the world 

The church has performed baptism for thousands of years. Jesus was baptised in the river Jordan by John the Baptist nearly 2,000 years ago. 

After Jesus' death and resurrection, he instructed his followers to spread the word of God, the Christian message and to baptise new members into the church. This has been carried out throughout the world in the Christian Church since then. 

Symbolism used during baptism 

The commitments that you will be making on behalf of your child are accompanied by various symbols. 

Water is blessed by the priest and used as a sign of God's life giving power. It shows how, just as we need water to refresh and cleanse us, so we need God's love to refresh and cleanse our lives.  Before the baptism, the priest will make the sign of the cross. The priest may also invite you to do the same. This is in remembrance of Jesus Christ and is like a badge joining your child to Christ's Church. After the baptism your child is anointed with special oil. At the end of the service you, or your child, will be given a candle. This represents God's light in the world, Jesus. It reminds us that His presence is like a light in the darkness. 

Becoming part of the Church and congregation

You and your child will be welcomed into the church. Baptism is the beginning of a lifelong spiritual journey. Ideally, you should attend Church regularly, guiding your child toward confirmation, where he/she will be able to confirm the vows that you and the godparents have made on their behalf. 

If you do not feel ready for the commitment of baptism, consider a thanksgiving service. This is an opportunity for you, your relatives, and the congregation to thank God for a new life. 

Your next step 

Contact the Parish Office to arrange a date for the service (baptisms are often conducted during the 10am Family Service on the first Sunday of the month). You will be asked to attend a baptism preparation, after a Sunday morning service, where a member of the clergy will talk to you about the spiritual aspects of baptism, and a member of the congregation can help you with the practical arrangements. You will also need to fill in a form and return it to the Parish Office a fortnight before the baptism service.  Note: the page Downloads and Links has a number of notes and forms which you can download.

Parish Office : 020 8398 9641


A first port of call for funerals is often the Vicar or Parish office.  We can also help you with the practical aspects and help you find suitable Funeral Directors.  This web site can also be a help to family and friends who need to find their way to the church. 


When someone we love dies

The death of someone we love is a difficult time. We all need the support of our family, friends and  those we  trust.  It  is  a  time  when  we  appreciate  the  care  & prayers  of  others in the wider community. The church seeks to be part of that caring community.

Arranging a service

Many  people  choose  to  have  a  Christian  funeral  service. During our interregnum, please contact the Parish Office to discuss this. If  you  make  the  funeral arrangements  directly  with  the  funeral  director,  they  will  contact  the Parish Office  who will then get in touch with you to arrange a time to meet to plan the service.  

What are the options?

Most people choose between a service in church (followed by burial or cremation) or at a crematorium (e.g. Randalls Park or Kingston). Having a  service  in  church  does  not  commit  you  to  having  your  loved  one  buried  in a churchyard (see   below). It may be that the deceased has made a particular request in their will, so before you make  a  decision,  please  check  with  the  executor  of  their  estate.  Other  than  that,  it does come down to personal preference. 


What does the service involve?

A  service  normally  includes music,  readings, prayers,  a  tribute,  a  short  address and space for private reflection. The length of a service can vary, although it usually lasts between 20-30 minutes. We can help you plan the service. You can also navigate, on the Church of England website, to the order of service at

The Churchyard & Garden of Remembrance

In the case of St Nicholas Church, Thames Ditton, the churchyard is now closed for new graves although a family grave can be reopened for a new burial if there is space. We have a Garden of Remembrance, opposite the main entrance to the church, where the cremated remains of those who lived in the parish may be interred. 

How much does it cost?

The  service  fees  vary  depending  on where  it  takes  place  and  whether  you  choose a burial  or a cremation. The local funeral director should be able to advise you on the fees, but if in doubt, please contact the Parish Office. There are standard fees (see below) set by the Church of England and Parochial Church Council for funerals. These are normally paid through the funeral director. The services of an organist can be arranged: additional fees are payable for this. 



The church hall may be available for hire for funeral gatherings, although some rooms get heavily booked during the week. Please contact the Parish Secretary for this. We are not able to provide catering.


Finding out more about the Christian faith

As a church family, we care for those who live in our community and pray for you as you go through this difficult time. 

Many people find it helpful to come to church at such a time, in order to take some time out to remember and to think about the bigger picture. You are most welcome to join us any Sunday at 10 a.m.



Coming to Church for worship is normally free! There are however a number of Parochial Fees: the main fees that are payable (excluding “Extras” (see note 1)) are from 1 January 2016:


(1) The fees listed are generally the statutory fees payable. It is stressed that the figures do not include any charges for extras such as music (e.g. organist, choir), bells, flowers, and special heating which are fixed by the Parochial Church Council.

(2) The fee for a marriage certificate is fixed by the Secretary of State.

(3) If a cemetery or crematorium authority has itself fixed different charges for the minister’s services in a cemetery or crematorium such charges will take precedence over those specified here.

(4) “Monument”, here, is a technical term and includes, for example, a grave stone or headstone.

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